Monday, January 29, 2007

Unbalanced life?

We all go through phases in our lives and I am trying to figure out the next phase of my life. My divorce devistated me, but since my trip, this is the best I have felt in years. As a result, I’ve started to wonder if I spend too much time at tango. The lack of dance was grating on me even though this is something I love to do. Because I wasn’t dancing, I forgot what drew me to the dance in the first place: the sense of connection; the beauty of the music; the conversations with friends.

Recently I had a conversation regarding balance in our lives. Her comment was that too much tango makes for an unbalanced life. I can’t help but question that. Yes, I dance three or four nights a week, but I also quilt, read, write, spend time with my family and more. Let’s not forget shoe shopping. That is a whole life in and of itself! How do we determine balance, and how can one person judge what works as balance for another person? I’ll often sew for three hours when I come home from work, and getting together with friends and sharing a dance or two is a wonderful way to finish off an evening.

Tango is what I choose to do (among other things). As long as I don’t forget that dancing goes in cycles. Sometimes the time on the floor is plentiful, sometimes the time watching is plentiful. But behind it all is the music, the friendships. These are the things that bring most of us together night after night. And hey, I’m not the only one there most evenings. Does this mean we all lead unbalanced lives?